About Women of Europe
I started Women of Europe (which is coincidentally not just for women in Europe) because two things really interest me:
1) The challenges women face in building the l lives they want and need for a fulfilling and stable future.
2) How your late 20s (also known as the Saturn returns period or the quarter life crisis) is the most difficult - yet formative period - of many woman's lives.
Personally, I felt I had "done" so much in my 20s only to find that I felt I had actually gotten nowhere. The years from 27 to 29, with my 30th birthday looming large, were especially tough as I began to realise I was not where I wanted to be nor where I thought I would be by 30. I ended up turning 30 wondering: What am I doing with my life.
I kept looking back and thinking: I have traveled to almost 50 countries, I have worked in various interesting jobs, I have a degree and a masters, I have lived and worked abroad, I have my own apartment, I have a dog and yet, and YET, I will get to my 30th birthday and not be anywhere near where I thought I would be at age 30.
You know that 30s ideal: married with children, with plenty of savings, with a successful and established career.
Yet, I had no clear career path, no partner, no children, not much money, was not physically fit, and without an answer to the question: What am I doing with my life. It also didn't help that I had faced some health challenges in my late 20s, which made me realise my human frailty.
I guess I felt cheated. I felt like I'd really pushed myself to learn, grow, explore and overcome challenges in my 20s, yet at almost 30 I felt weaker and more exhausted than ever before. I also, felt I didn't have much to show for all this "personal development" I'd been doing.
In talking about this to other women in their 20s and 30s, I began to realise that this struggle is real. That many women feel they are wasting their lives, that many women feel they have all the opportunity in the world but still can't seem to be making most of it. That many women have anxiety around what they should have achieved by X age.
So I want to write here mainly to get my ideas down about how stressful the 27 to 29 years can be for many women who feel the weight of so much expectation, and to explore my own ideas about the broader challenges women face in the modern world.
Oh, and PS the reason I chose pink for this site, isn't because I think women should (necessarily) be delicate and dainty; it's just because I love this colour.
Ildi Amon is a journalist, researcher, copywriter and communications consultant. She is from Melbourne, Australia but currently lives in Budapest, Hungary.